Forgiveness is a big thing, when we hear of people forgiving someone who has hurt them, we may be amazed that someone could do that. What we forget is that it’s detrimental to us to hold on to the hurt, betrayal, anger, resentment etc. caused by the actions of this person/people.

Many times, that person may have forgotten what they did and be merrily leading their life without a second thought for you. Meanwhile you spend your days/months thinking of what they did and saying you’ll never forgive them – so who is the worse off?

You may say, well hold one, doesn’t forgiveness mean I condone what they did to me? How can I say that’s it’s OK they broke my heart, betrayed my trust, etc?! Forgiveness isn’t about saying what someone did to you is acceptable, it’s more about you letting go of that pain and anger and how it affects you every day. You don’t condone the action, you release the impact it has on you.

From previous blogs about thoughts and emotions, all the blame and hurt is negative energy that affects your wellbeing. You can see forgiveness as saying “yes this happened, but I’m going to release the negative feelings which don’t help me by forgiving you and this situation that happened between us”. You can visualise a sword cutting through energy cords between you and the person/people involved and breath it out. Send love and compassion to the aspect of you that wants to cling on to the anger and resentment.

Everything is energy. Carrying the energy of resentment or revenge will only bring you down and not help you mentally or emotionally. See forgiveness as a way of releasing that negative energy so that your mind and body can be filled with more light.

It’s like when the sun is out, we feel more joyous, people smile more. See forgiveness as letting the sun into your body, mind and energy fields. See it clearing out all negativity, allowing you to heal and spend your life in a more calm and positive way.